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Shifting My Thinking and Mindset
Shifting My Thinking and Mindset in 17 Seconds a Day
Life is a journey. For decades I insisted on focusing on the destination I had in mind instead of embracing the experiences I would have along the way. At age 50 I realized my life was not anything like I had envisioned it would be by this time and I set about to learn what I had missed and to make up for some of what I had lost. I’m still enjoying this journey and I now understand that it was the destination that was important all along.
As a young adult I started having the “victim” mentality where everything I experienced was the result of something that someone else was doing to me, instead of my taking full responsibility for my part in every interaction. I was also struggling with communication skills and would always think later about what I had said and how I could have reacted to someone in a different way. At some point I believe I gave up on my dreams of happiness and success and moved into existence mode. Then I traded those dreams in for a paycheck and a half-life of sorts. This is not an ideal state to live in and leads to low self-esteem, lack of confidence, and a life unfulfilled. When I think back to this time during my 20s, 30s, and into my 40s I realize I was in a very dark place with very little light at the end of my tunnel.
